I woke up this morning after a very good nights sleep and as I lay there slowly waking up a thought came to me. It was as if someone was right there speaking to me. It wasn’t a whisper but very, very clear; “Consistency is key”. That was it…just those three little words but it was very, very clear what was meant. You see, lately I’ve allowed life to get in the way of my writing, my exercising, my eating right, my sleeping…pretty much everything! I had started asking myself “Why can’t I find the time for…..(you fill in the blank)?” I’ve been praying and asking God “What am I doing wrong?” I’ve been tired, frustrated and aggravated with myself for not doing the things I want to do to reach the goals I had set for myself…the things I am SO sure God has laid on my heart to do…so I just quit. This isn’t the first time I’ve allowed this. It has been a pattern that had previously dominated my life but I had overcome some years back. Or so I’d thought. Sound familiar? You see, life has an ugly way of slipping in and getting our focus off what we should be doing and gets us back on that hamster wheel, as my friend Lisa calls it. You know, where we just go, go, go and get no where. We get nothing accomplished but we are so “busy”!
“Allow” is a very important word here because you see, even when things seem out of control we do have the power to “take” control over what happens in our own lives. Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s hard, especially when we have families, work, church and civic responsibilities. The key is a little two letter word that can make all the difference in the world. That word….and we all know it….here it comes….is …..NO. That’s it….NO. At some point in time we have to realize we are only human and there’s only 24 hours in a day. We can’t do and be all for everyone else and expect it to not have a negative effect on ourselves. Ever heard the saying “Burning the candle at both ends”? Let’s visualize that for a moment. First I want you to think of a candle in a holder…it slowly burns letting it’s light shine for quite some time. But take that same candle and light it on both ends. the flames race towards each other and before you know it, the candle is gone, completely consumed by itself. It doesn’t last as long and isn’t useful anymore. When we try to do too much that’s what happens to us. We don’t want to disappoint anyone so we don’t say no to anything and before you know it we start to lose steam, we can’t think as clearly and our enthusiasm is gone. Our days start running together and everyday looks the same as the day before.
Summer time has been busy and more than one thing has happened to throw a kink in things, like my hubby having to go to California for two weeks and me having to do ALL the stuff he does at home ( and he does it ALL) at the same time my day job had a special project going that I was heavily involved in! Our garden has been hugely productive which has been a good thing…but it has also taken a lot of work to save the veggies that we’ve been blessed with. Those kinds of things can’t be helped but instead of taking things in stride I allowed it to stop me dead in my tracks. And then I was still trying to exercise, write and sleep! I became overwhelmed and instead of doing what I KNOW to be the best thing, which is to step back, take a breath and evaluate. I plunged forward trying to accomplish it all…burning that candle at both ends with a blow torch!! And finally I said enough is enough, hence this mornings revelation.
So what am I going to do? How can I be consistent even when life is going crazy? Baby steps….re-focus on my goals. Break them down into little steps and do something EVERY DAY that will be a step towards those goals…and learn to say NO….even if it’s to myself!! I am the worlds worst at trying to do too much because “I” think it needs to be done. It’s okay if everything doesn’t get finished right away. I can pretty much guarantee that the world will not end if the dishes are left in the drainer for a bit (that’s one of my pet peeves!!) or if my office isn’t perfectly straight when I sit down to write! I have had to humble myself and admit that I’m not Super-Mom, Super-Wife or Wonder Woman! As much as I’d like to be…I’m not and there’s only one of me and I need to remember to take care of myself so that I can accomplish all that I’m meant to.
I hope this will help you to give yourself grace and be more consistent so that you can accomplish your dreams. Please let me know what you think. I’d love to hear your comments.